Are You Coming Across Well to Your Colleagues

Are You Coming Across Well to Your Colleagues Dont be that guyWeve all said it before perhaps even at the office water cooler whentalking about the clueless boorishness of some scandal-plagued celebrity of the day, or maybe someone closer to home, like Lloyd in marketing.Andsometimes, we get that haunting feeling that maybe, just maybe, wearethat guy in some peoples eyes.How do I come across to my teammates? Our clients or customers? Our third-party vendors?This are all probably questions youve asked yourself at least once.Now, suppose we found out the cold, hard truth. Is there any way we can use that knowledge to improve our work relationships? Can weprofit from a clearer understanding of how our colleagues see us?PI Midlantic senior consultant Melanie Wood would answer, Yes. Her firm coaches business leaders on how to mora effectively leverage their human resources by using, among other tools, the Predictive datenbankindex, which the company desc ribes as an objective assessment based on certain fundamental assumptions of behavioral psychology.Recalling the dismay of a client of hers who having taken the Predictive Index Behavioral Assessment realized that she may be coming across to coworkers in a negative light, Wood explained in a March 22 article that, in fact, finding ways to tap into the way you are truly perceived by others can be an invaluable growth opportunity, not to mention a powerful engagement tactic when you involve your team.Assess YourselfTo make the most of this growth opportunity, you should start by honestly assessing yourself, Wood advisesHow do you deliver messages? Can you be abrupt and direct? Are you overly verbose? Do you provide clarity, or are you vague, expecting others to fill in the blanks? Do you talk with your team or at your team? Do you criticize/point out issues privately or publicly? Do you acknowledge the good things your team members do, even if it is well within the scope of what is expected? If you do acknowledge them, is it via email or face-to-face?How Do You and Your Colleagues Differ From One Another?Secondly, you should assess the differences between you and your team members and colleagues.Were so comfortable with who we are we have no concept of how we come across to others, Wood explains in a phone conversation, noting, for example, how misunderstandings can crop up in a work environment where a manager or team member who is naturally blunt communicates with a more indirect or diplomatic individual.Empathetic team members want to collaborate, not to be told what to do, Wood says.These team members dont want to be seen as pawns in the game, but rather as players on the same team.At the same time, more direct, task-oriented personalities usually see bluntness as a sign of respect for the other persons valuable time as a fellow team member.The key is in adjusting your approach in a way that respects your differences.Dont change who you are, just change th e way you talk to your colleagues to have a more successful workplace environment, Woodsays.Gather FeedbackThirdly, Wood counsels that you must gather insight and perspectives from peers and team membersReach out to team members and/or friends and family and have an honest conversation about your style. Explain that your ultimate goal is to more thoroughly understand how your style is perceived and ways in which you can develop as a person and team member. Do not rely only on those with whom you connect or whom you know well. Sometimes, those people we do not fully understand can provide the most perspective.You shouldnt expect everyone to think or communicate like you, nor should you stifle your personality or your natural approach to problem solving.Assess, Assess, AssessIts all aboutrespect, honest communication, and ongoing evaluation, which leads to Woods fourth and final point You really need to take a month or so to continually assess how youre doing before gathering together your team to reassess your progress.While the Predictive Indexs categories can be particularlyhelpful, Woods advice is invaluable regardless. Personality dynamics in any office environment will have a tremendous impact on corporate culture, productivity, and ultimately, your brands perception. The sooner you break the ice and dive into the differences in how you and your colleagues communicate, the sooner you can appreciate and be effective alongside them.Clayton Ramsey isclient service manager at PI Midlantic.